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Some stories refuse to stay private.
I'm Nora Vellick. I write books, notes and observations about the questions people only ask behind closed doors.
The book series
The Husband Experiment
Five men.
One experiment.
Deeper truths.
Relationships.
Power. Choice.
What we hide.
What we learn.
One encounter. Five men. A story that keeps unfolding.
Explore the seriesThe Record
Every story leaves a trace.
The Record is where I keep my notes, interviews and observations on people, relationships, and the truths we hide from ourselves. Some of it became books. Most of it didn't.
From the journal
Latest notes
The Millionaire Problem
Why some women feel less provided for by a wealthy partner than by a man with a fraction of his income. Having...
Expensive Isn't Generous
Spending money on someone and providing for them are different acts. On what women actually track when they judge a man's financial...
The Second Shift Isn't What It Was
Arlie Hochschild named the second shift in 1989. Thirty years later the numbers have moved, but not the way the headlines suggest.
About
Journalist. Author. Observer.
“I write about people who don't want to be written about.”
A Husband Experiment book
The Work Nobody Sees
Rest, Care, Money and Desire in the Shared Home
He helps if I ask. It is said as fairness, and it is almost always followed by a pause. If he helps when she asks, she is the one who has to know what to ask for.
Fifty-five chapters on the planning nobody counts, the leisure gap, the night shift, and the three subjects that make these conversations sharp: care, money and desire. Every study is cited, with its limits.
243 pages · About 48,000 words · Fully sourced · Instant PDF
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