Who Do You Become When You Want Him?

Four roles. Which one is yours?

• The Romantic

  You see possibilities and open up easily. Sometimes you trust the potential before the behavior.

• The Investigator

  You notice details and look for clarity. Sometimes the analysis takes the place of the conversation.

• The Untouchable

  You guard your life and your independence. Sometimes you hide the wish so well that he never knows it exists.

• The Director

  You know what you want and set the direction. Sometimes you try to steer something that needs a choice from both of you.

These roles come from Nora Vellick's writing in The Husband Experiment, a series about desire, power and what people hide.